"Reaching Up" ...
the Weekly Mini-Column
by Dr. Jim Rosen
"A small dose of good psychology every week"
 

Welcome to Reaching Up

  Reaching Up is the weekly mini-column written by Dr. Jim Rosen.  He is a Clinical Psychologist who is both a therapist and a teacher.  He has been in private practice since 1976 and has taught psychology at five colleges & universities.
     Dr. Rosen draws upon his therapy, his teaching methods, and his own life experiences to generate a column that causes many people to say, "You wrote this just for me!"  His writing is personal, insightful and relevant.
     You are invited to read a new article every week on this web page.  Each Sunday morning, Dr. Rosen's current article is posted on this page, and it remains here until the following Sunday morning.
     In Reaching Up Dr. Rosen teaches you about: anxiety, depression, panic, self-esteem, self-love, anger, relationship enhancement, healthy communications, guilt, behavior problems, marriage & family enrichment, peace of mind, stress, effective parenting, grief, inner security, assertiveness, and strengthening your relationship with God.  Look for a meaningful article every week.

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This week's mini-column:  You Can't Buy Approval


Here is this week's mini-column:

 

You Can't Buy Approval
 by Dr. Jim Rosen
©2010 Dr. Jim Rosen

    You can't buy other people's approval.  You can't earn it; you can't win it; you can't suck up to them and get it; you can't people-please your way into it.  If you have to sacrifice who you are, by being somebody who you're not, to get their approval -- then it's not real approval.
   Your true friends are the people who really like you, that is, they like you for who you are.  They like you for being yourself and not for following in their footsteps.  They like you when you go along with their ideas and they like you when you don't.  So it is with your true friends that you always have their approval.  And that proves that it's real and that their friendship is true.
   If the approval isn't lasting, if it depends on your behavior, then they're not really your friends, and you don't need their approval anyway.  The kind of approval that you have to people-please to get is so temporary that it doesn't really exist.  It's not real approval.
   Don't fool yourself into thinking you can actually acquire approval by pleasing them.  If they don't like you for who you are, you never really have their approval.  Those are just short-lived blips of agreeableness with some of your behavior, not with you the person.
   The people who like you the person always like you, no matter your behavior.  So it doesn't work to people-please and abandon your real self to try to get approval.  Real approval is for the real you - from the people who like you as you are.
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